When confronted with an undesirable situation or event, it seems that human nature automatically requires that we criticize or find fault with someone or something. I’m not sure why, but often it’s second nature to subconsciously protect our own ego at all cost.
Have you notice that people usually find fault more often than they find solutions. Why? The answer is obvious. It’s always easier to spot the problem than it is to find a solution. Finding a solution requires thought and processing and analysis and too often when confronted with a difficult situation, our mind goes on auto-pilot and doesn’t take the time to look at our predicament from all angles before we speak.
In the long run, criticizing, complaining, or condemning others is probably not going to produce the intended result. We may feel at the time that solutions will be found through negative examination of the facts. However, what is likely to happen is it will create more problems that could spiral into a downright slugfest resulting in both emotional and physical damage.
The usual reaction of a person being criticized is to defend himself, which often leads to losing touch with the real issues that need to be dealt with in the situation. Criticizing hurts a person’s pride and self-importance and causes resentment, a precarious situation when trying to find solutions to the problem.
Give yourself a moment to reflect and do the necessary analysis of the situation.
I find that most of the time when I do this, I realize the situation is not as bad as my initial reaction. In fact, I’ve come to realize that unless confronted with a life or death situation that requires immediate action, taking a few moments or minutes or even hours to contemplate the best plan of action is beneficial to everyone involved.
Oftentimes, when a situation falls short of our expectations, we forget that a positive meeting could provide a way to straighten out the situation. When misunderstandings happen, as they often do, a second chance with more enlightened information, rather than confrontation, will likely provide a conclusion that is more agreeable for everyone involved.
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Have you notice that people usually find fault more often than they find solutions. Why? The answer is obvious. It’s always easier to spot the problem than it is to find a solution. Finding a solution requires thought and processing and analysis and too often when confronted with a difficult situation, our mind goes on auto-pilot and doesn’t take the time to look at our predicament from all angles before we speak.
In the long run, criticizing, complaining, or condemning others is probably not going to produce the intended result. We may feel at the time that solutions will be found through negative examination of the facts. However, what is likely to happen is it will create more problems that could spiral into a downright slugfest resulting in both emotional and physical damage.
The usual reaction of a person being criticized is to defend himself, which often leads to losing touch with the real issues that need to be dealt with in the situation. Criticizing hurts a person’s pride and self-importance and causes resentment, a precarious situation when trying to find solutions to the problem.
Give yourself a moment to reflect and do the necessary analysis of the situation.
I find that most of the time when I do this, I realize the situation is not as bad as my initial reaction. In fact, I’ve come to realize that unless confronted with a life or death situation that requires immediate action, taking a few moments or minutes or even hours to contemplate the best plan of action is beneficial to everyone involved.
Oftentimes, when a situation falls short of our expectations, we forget that a positive meeting could provide a way to straighten out the situation. When misunderstandings happen, as they often do, a second chance with more enlightened information, rather than confrontation, will likely provide a conclusion that is more agreeable for everyone involved.
http://worldvillage.com/the-need-to-criticize
